It only takes one parent group to crush adults？ The child’s father withdrew from the parents’ group and heated discussion.

　　Recently, "Only one parent group is needed to crush adults" has become a hot search in Weibo, and the follow-up reports of CCTV, People’s Daily and other media have escalated the topic. "Do you think the teacher doesn’t want to quit the group?" "Why can’t you do it? Quit the first place!" "The biggest source of our anxiety and parenting troubles is not a front-line teacher at all!" … …

　　For a time, all kinds of comments on the internet kept colliding and fermenting, so let’s listen to the views of all parties.

　　Yangzi Evening News/Zi Niu News reporter Wang Ying

　　Resonance! There are 16 groups of two children, and no one can return.

　　Recently, a parent in Jiangsu wore a mask and faced the camera, strongly accusing the teacher. "I will quit the parent group. What’s wrong?" The man also issued a "soul torture": "Teach me, change me, and then say with a smile that the teacher has worked hard. Who has worked hard?"

　　In the same situation, a few days ago, a parent was named "criticized" by the teacher just because he didn’t reply to the news of the parent group in time. The father cried and explained, "How can you see it when you work overtime, have a meeting and stare at the children?"

　　These two things happened one after another, which aroused strong resonance from many parents all over the country.

　　Ms. Wang, a parent, said: "There are two children in my family, and my parents have entered 16 groups: Chinese Rush, Math Refueling Group, English Video Publishing Group, Parents Information Publishing Group, Parents Discussion Group, a Family Committee Group, two Custody Counseling Groups, and two other children each have four special tutoring groups. I cried silently when I saw it. There are about 50 groups in my WeChat, which can’t be blocked or retired by measurement. "

　　Injustice! Parents want to quit the group, do you think the teacher doesn’t want to quit?

　　Recently, there is a widely circulated video among teachers. "In your eyes, the teacher’s job is to attend classes and change homework? In fact, teachers’ jobs include attending classes, correcting homework, correcting compositions, correcting activity manuals, making PPT, writing plans, writing lesson plans, writing summaries, writing meeting minutes, writing experiences, holding teaching and research meetings, business learning, class teacher meetings, audio-visual training, repairing computers, TV and radio … …” "With the parent group, every day is a parent meeting." Parents are not only the burden of parents, but also the burden of many teachers.

　　"Helpless, some competent departments have arranged everything in the parents’ group, and they are prone to safety education, or medical insurance statistics, and what youth studies, questionnaires, anti-drug knowledge contests, etc. are flying all over the sky. The class teacher is miserable and the parents are full of complaints. " A teacher said.

　　Many class teachers spit out their bitterness. "How many straws, care about which one? If only one parent group is needed to crush adults, then one group after another is needed to crush teachers. After all, a teacher has multiple identities in school: he can be a Chinese teacher and join several parents because he teaches several classes; It can be the head teacher, subject leader, grade leader and group leader … … Naturally, N groups can or must be added. "

　　Question! Quit the group at every turn? Some people criticized the father for being "irresponsible"

　　"I don’t know what the teacher who was vomited by this father said. I can’t say that his words and deeds are definitely no problem, but from the words and deeds of this father, it is not much better." An education major V said, "I know that schools in different places and at different levels have different home-school relationships and communication modes. But no matter where, parents actually know best that the biggest source of our anxiety and parenting troubles is not the front-line teachers at all. A rising tide lifts all boats, the theater effect, you chase after me, the front-line teachers are also forced to go upstream all the way, if they don’t advance, they will retreat. In this environment, even if the teacher doesn’t stare at you, communicate with you or give you any tasks, your anxiety will not be reduced at all, and you may even blame the teacher ‘ It’s too loose ’ 。”

　　Some netizens joked that it was found that all the emotional people who quit the group were men, and women were afraid to speak. "Usually, most of them are mothers who have been conscientiously taking care of their children, tutoring, making up lessons, communicating between home and school, and planning and developing; However, from time to time, most of the parents publicly complain, quit the group and tell the world, but most of them are fathers. "

　　Ms. Li, a parent, said: "A student is only 30-40 times for a teacher; But for many families, it is the only one. Your own children are responsible for themselves, and excellent children are all paid by their parents ‘ Create ’ Yes. You can choose to be willful, as long as you don’t care about your baby’s academic performance. "

　　expert

　　Complement each other, parents

　　Should become a "community of educating people"

　　"As a way of technical assistance, parents should serve as an effective bridge for communication and cooperation between the two sides, aiming at better promoting home-school cooperation and educating people with the greatest synergy." Wang Kaidong, a special-grade teacher in Jiangsu Province, said that the original intention of setting up a parent group was to communicate between home and school, but I don’t know when the parent group began to turn sour and became a task group, an ass group and a gray group. Some teachers regard parents as a place to assign homework, let parents correct homework, sign and punch cards, shoot videos of children reciting texts, and force parents to complete labor tasks that should be completed by children. What’s more, some middle schools also invite parents to study on duty at night.

　　Among the parents built by teachers, there are many "flatterers". The teacher issued a notice, or said something, and the following were all praised: mighty, incisive, wise, SHEN WOO, awesome, and super-burning … … Flowers and cakes Qi Fei, roses and thumbs are the same color. There are also parents who publish their experiences like learning documents, and a large piece is full of screens, which makes people feel goose bumps.

　　Some schools push things that can’t be done in the gray fringe to the family Committee and parents, and turn school behavior into parental behavior.

　　Wang Kaidong said that parents should establish group rules and set up some taboos. Everyone sticks to his own boundaries. Teachers and parents are more committed, more considerate and complement each other. Teachers do their duty at school, teach good books and educate good people, try to reduce the extra-curricular pressure of children, and make children grow up and become successful. Parents work hard to cooperate with the school, accompany their children as much as they can, and become their mentor and strong backing. A group of good parents is a good school. The ideal parent group should be a community for educating people. Everyone speaks freely, and the only goal is to work together to make children take a step forward in life charm.